Eye Contact Inception August 4, 2014

Have you ever made eye contact with someone and feel a sense of depth or any emotion which seems puzzling? How is this possible? Where do these feelings generate from?  What is the source?

“The eyes are the window to the soul”

On one hand they might be created from insecurities or wishful thinking of what we hope the person to be. This is a tragedy for hope in what cannot be proven only leads to disappointment, hurt feelings and false sense of reality. We imagine someone of our dreams, a figment of our imagination destined to fulfil our storybook ending. The truth is we are imperfect and our imagination often misleads and teases the mirage of these thoughts. Do we truly understand this when we connect with someone?

On the other hand perhaps there is some innate memory which recognizes this window, for this window seems familiar, this window is open. I am of the belief “all the worlds a stage… And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages.” As You Like It Act 2, scene 7, 139–143

1. Infant
2. Schoolboy
3. Lover
4. Soldier
5. Justice(Wise)
6. Old Man
7. Second childhood

On this stage of actors and actresses of over 6 billion women and men only a handful make an impact on our lives. I also find this fascinating. We carry out our lives wearing many hats meeting certain people who assist us, love us, hate us and envy us.

Back to the topic of eye contact; I have met men and women with whom I have made eye contact and knew we would be friends. It was a “knowing” and after reflection is still baffling to me how this actually occurs. I tend to think certain people are destined to cross our paths, while others are not. Everything happens for a reason. Lessons learned and mirrors shown.

I was asked if I believe in love at first sight, I do not. I do believe in connection, love at first sight is just an idea which has no merit until it is tested. Ideas have no value until they prove to create sustainable results.

I often think people like the idea of things rather than the work it takes to produce results. For example, I trained traditional Kung Fu for nearly 7 years and saw many students come and go. They were in love with the idea of Bruce Lee or being a marital artist from a movie. When it came down to practising one move for an entire year they did not have the patience. In reality to master ONE move takes up to a year, when we see Jet Li demonstrate moves on TV each movement was practised thousands of times, he started when he was 8 years old and what we see is a result of decades of training. So with this idea of love, how then can we say we love someone without ever practising a single move? Love is not a marital art but it is a discipline, it takes work, give and take, bruises and bumps, offense and defense, understanding and practise.

So when I say I am baffled with the connection I feel when I make eye contact I truly am. This is something I will never understand and is one of the most beautiful mysteries of my life.  

Compassionately,

J.R.

a poem for the right angle friend…

In this dreamland terra stage

a distant memory awakens the inception

Looking through the window

Fondness relativity finds the fruit